Sunday, July 15, 2012

Of Life and Laundry Lines

How is it that summer is whisking by so quickly?  I feel like just yesterday we were finishing up our last lessons of this and that, and that now it will only be a few days before we will be working in earnest to prepare to get back to the regular school-year routine!

I hope that most of you are now enjoying a break from the rhythm of the school year. I know that I am. It has taken these wonderful little packages of a few minutes snatched here and there, peaceful moments in which to realize that it was a pretty stressful year in the Dean house: serious health concerns, busy days with a routine that some times wants to eat me up, the ups and downs of living in a family, the challenging tightrope walk of trying to integrate business with family and still maintain normalcy and to keep my priorities straight.

We have already enjoyed a lot of much needed break time, recovery time, after a very busy conference season and have felt very refreshed but do you, like me, find that even the breaks takes a lot of work?  It seemed like a week of camping required 10 days of intensive prep and now, several days of recovery.

Yesterday, as we unpacked, cleaned and did the laundry, I was enjoying the return to my simple place under the laundry tree.  I love snatching these moments with you here “Under the Maple Tree” but I feel like my laundry line is my measuring device for balance in my own little life: when I can stand under the blossoms of the crabapple tree and hang and take in our fresh garments I feel like time has slowed down.  That is when I am not living at the pace of technology. 

It is when life is rushed and there isn’t time that we throw a load in the washer and then the dryer (and then more often than not, deposit it in a heap on the landing upstairs waiting for some magical laundry fairy to come and fold it).  When there is time for the details, time for the catching up and for keeping up, a margin for error in a marginless world, it is then that I find myself fussing over straight lines of lights, brights and darks. While little streams of light peak around and through the branches to gently caress linens that flap in the breeze.

So while fun busyness of beach days and visits and play helps to refresh our school year busyness of a different sort, I am so happy too for the “unbusy” moments when I can just peacefully hang out the laundry. 

Wishing you restful, peaceful moments this week, Friends!

Blessings,

Cori

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Newby Workshops 2012

Dear Friends,

Once again this year I am offering free workshops to new homeschoolers (and those thinking of homeschooling) at my home in Bradford.  I will also be partnering with Henry and Corrinna Kiezebrink to offer one in their home near Barrie again this year.

You may come to my home on either of two dates: Thursday, July 19th or Tuesday, August 7th. Both evenings will run from 7:30-9:30.  The Keizebrinks are hosting their workshop on August 21st from 7:30-9:30

If you are new to the homeschooling world or are considering this crazy lifestyle, then please feel free to come for a visit.  These are interactive (question and answer style) small group workshops in my home. If you, or someone you know, are interested in coming please RSVP directly to me at mapletreepublications@sympatico.ca or 905-778-9412 as soon as possible as attendance is limited to 15 people (since I do have a very cozy living room) and the evenings usually do fill up.

Both Mom and Dad are welcome to attend though I respectfully ask that only parents and nursing babes attend as a full house and a late evening often make it hard for young people to allow the adults the opportunity to get the most out of the workshop. 

We will cover topics like:

Yikes! Can I do this!?!
Where can I go for support?
What are the legal implications?
Do I have to contact my local school board?
What about curriculum?
What is a “normal” homeschooling day like?
What about socialization!?!

Please come with questions!

And expect some yummy handouts too!

Henry and Corrinna Kiezebrink plan to attend all of these meetings to share from their 23 years of homeschooling experience as well.

Please feel free to share this invitation with friends and family who are new to homeschooling or who are considering it.  You are also welcome to forward this information to your church group or other homeschool groups.  See you in the summer!

Blessings,

Cori

Maple Tree Publications
905.778.9412
www.mapletreepublications.ca
mapletreepublications@sympatico.ca 

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

This isn't my full-time job...

I told that to a dad that I spoke to at a homeschool meeting that I had the honour to be the guest speaker at this week.  He was asking, the way that dads do, about the business of speaking at conferences and meetings and selling books.  What’s my website like?  How do I market the books that I write and publish?  What is my target audience?  Etc.

The thing is: I love my job.  I love to write.  I love to pour over scripture and find a nugget of truth that I can apply practically to my little world “under the maple tree”.  I love chatting with all of you on the phone, in person at meetings and conferences, and virtually here on line.  I even like balancing the books and working through all of the tedium of invoicing and such (maybe that’s because there really isn’t too much of it.)  J  I’m starting to like packaging up books as I imagine that I am building little fortresses for these little treasures as I send them out to do battle with the postal system.  (It’s like a game of Tetris to create just the right package so that the books don’t slide around or get dinged and my sweet customers don’t have to feel the heavy burden of expensive packaging and inflated shipping prices.)

But this isn’t my full time job.  I told that to this dad that I was chatting with.  “After all, this isn’t my full-time job.  I already have a full-time job.”  His eyes bulged.  “You have another job?!”  “Of course I do!  I am a wife and mom that home educates her kids.  It doesn’t pay well but it’s a full time job.”  And really, it’s a lie to say that it doesn’t pay well.  The truth of the matter is that it doesn’t pay the same as another professional teacher might make but it is a job none the less that I do take quite seriously.

Of course, being a homeschooling dad, he knew.  He nodded.  It’s true.  My priority should be my full time job.  After all, while I could invest 40 hours a week (or more!) into Maple Tree, which I would really love, I would quickly lose track of my first career choice, my first work priority.  So while I do hope to see myself working at this job full time by the time my last little cherub graduates from her homeschooling experience, more than that I look forward to the pay off then, when, God willing, we can enjoy a strong family relationship built over many years of living this crazy life together and can see our young women out in the world living the lives that God created them to live. 

I know a lot of you mamas are in this same boat, living the daily insanity of full time wife and mama and teacher.  (And that teacher job on top of the others is a really real job!)  Many of you are working away at your own home businesses, at jobs away from the home or even at other jobs that are just as taxing but also don’t pay in dollars and cents.  I have talked to you homeschoolers who are bus drivers, full time professional nurses, Usborne consultants, dance teachers and volunteer ministry coordinators.  Kudos to you! 

Remember to give yourself the credit of time and energy to make your first jobs first and the others to fall into line behind.  I wish for you the peace of heart to be able to prioritize first that which you feel is the right thing to do for your family (whether that is homeschooling or not) and let the money worry about itself.  I know that many of us add a small business or part or full time job on as punctuation to an already busy schedule to help make ends meet but may I encourage you to trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path. (Proverbs 3:4,5)  Remember that he has said that he will provide all of your needs. (Philippians 4:19)  Do what you know to be right for your family and let the money follow, not lead you.

I have to daily do this, as I think that I have missed writing deadlines, haven’t blogged in a month or haven’t balanced the books for a couple of conferences.  Yikes!  Thank you all for your grace as I have been absent from my little soap box under the maple tree.  I will pop in and out, as I can, when the reading and math lessons get done and when we aren’t chasing our crazy dog through the woods, since I miss my time here with you.

Blessings in your busy days, Friends!

Cori

Thursday, April 12, 2012

New Stuff!

It's been a while since my last post since we officially entered "conference season" at the end of March and I have had to spend more time in the "real world".  I wanted to send you all a quick note though, before I head out to Ottawa for this weekend's RVHEA conference, to let you know a bit of what is going on here Under the Maple Tree. 

For more than a decade, Maple Tree has been committed to bringing you spectacular homegrown Canadian homeschool resources.  In the past few years though as I have been out at conferences and enjoying many yummy chats with all of you we have often talked about wonderful books that weren't on our publication list.  After a chat about one great resource or another the inevitable question was, "Can I get that from you?"  I was pleased to be able to point my friends to where they could seek out some of these yummy resources but have decided to stream line the process for you (and to work harder at paying for our own piano lessons rather than at padding some other retailer's bottom line). 

So, in light of the fact that we love the principles of Charlotte Mason's Philosophy of Education, we have expanded out product line and now carry many of the essentials of a Charlotte Mason education

I do plan to send you some more info in the near future on these products but, in short, we can now provide you with:

- Life of Fred Math
- Learning Language Arts Through Literature
- Mystery of History
- and Apologia Science

As well as many Charlotte Mason style Bible and parent resources.  We have been slowing adding products to the website so check back there as we continue to make updates but also feel free to email or call for more information.  I'd be happy to try to help you find the resource that you are looking for.  For now, our product line is fairly simple (though it is a big and exciting change here in our little corner of the world) as we aim to provide at least some essentials of a Charlotte Mason education.

Don't forget that Maple Tree was founded on amazing Canadian resources that we continue to provide: Working Together, Come Sit By Me and the Great Canadian ArtPak to name a few. 

Please stop by our virtual store as you plan to visit your local conference or to order books for you next school year.

And if you are going to be at one of the remaining conferences that I will be at (Ottawa, Hamilton, Barrie, Brantford, or Toronto) please come and say hello!  I'd love to chat with you in real life!

Blessings,

Cori

Monday, March 26, 2012

I Yelled at the Dog Today

I didn't just yell, I stomped and raved and shouted about how I hated her.  I didn't just scream at her in the privacy of my home (I've never been good at hiding my emotions), I took her to the park with my kids and their friends and my ever so graceful friend.  (How did you have so much grace for today Sarah?)  And the rest of my day was defined by my loosing my temper with my dog. 

Why is it that I thought it reasonable to scream at my dog for her horrible behaviour.  I never would have screamed, "I hate you" at my kids or my husband!  How is it that I reverted to the form of a two year old having a tantrum on the floor at the goading of a great big doesn't-know-any-better-yet puppy?

Perhaps much of this is not just because of one dumb puppy's behaviour but becasue of my own.  Staying up late at night to prepare to speak at several upcoming homeschool conferences and homeschool meetings has left me exhausted as the culmination of my work is played out in my preparation for the first conference coming up this weekend.  Sigh, have I played the fraud, pretending to be the homeschooler who can lead other homeschoolers into educational bliss?  

My consolation is this: homeschooling isn’t for perfect parents.

I have to constantly remind myself that we decided to homeschool because we thought it was the best thing for our family not because we came to some sort of realization that we were perfect parents and teachers.

I think that my only success in homeschooling is knowing that I am forgiven.  That is really the only way to hold my head up in light of all my failings.  To know that my redemption is in the sacrifice of Christ makes it easier to hold my children accountable, even as I fail.  How often do I ask them to do as I say and not as I do, since essentially we are all learning to walk in the likeness of Christ day by day and side by side.

And, I guess my learning today should include finding the wisdom to head to bead earlier so that my family, my friends, and even my dog don't have to feel the wrath of Mama again tomorrow.

Good night, All!

Cori  

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Mother Culture: Wisdom vs. Knowledge - Part Two

Wisdom vs. Knowledge (Some notes on Chapter 5, Home Education:  Strengthening Your Child’s Mind to Learn for God) 

The Clarkson’s have created a simplified list that they believe to be seven basic mental muscles (strengths) that kids need in order to graduate as strong, well-educated adults: 

  1. Language
-          talk and discuss much, create a print rich environment, read aloud a lot and on your own, write, limit television

“We all use language as a utilitarian means of information exchange, but those who understand its power use it to change lives and even influence history.” – pg 76

        What are some of your favourite family reads lately?  Do you, like me, find it hard to prioritize that yummy reading time when there are so many measurable things that you should do like math lessons, piano practice and copywork? 

  1. Appetites
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever if right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.  Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice.  And the God of peace will be with you.”  Philippians 4:8-9

- create and appetite for the best academic materials: great literature, art, music, poetry, books that bring people, topics and episodes in history alive.  Limit videos.

  1. Habits
Developing right habits is key to the success and good character of our children.  “Most good habits are the end product of discipleship and discipline of your children.” – pg. 80.  We must work on helping our children to become people of strong virtue.  (That’s why I wrote “Working Together”!)

How do you help your family to build those right habits?  What would define success in habit building to you?  In our family, we have put an emphasis on habits that develop strong, positive character traits and that develop responsibility.  (I would love it if Working Together was an encouragement to you as you strive to teach your family strong character while still working on conquering the everyday responsibilities of keeping home and family.  Please do check it out!)

  1. Creativity
Contemporary parenting styles may create overly programmed lives for children, by over-protecting them and over-scheduling them, which has the effect of denying children opportunities to discover for themselves as much as in previous generations.” – pg. 82 quote from Kyung Hee Kim, Associate Professor at the College of William and Mary.

- keys to creativity: provide time (FREE time) and tools, help to rightly develop the imagination (steering away from destructive imaginative outlets), encourage kids creative strengths and guide kids to try new things without forcing things on them and model creativity as parents.

One of the biggest lessons that I learned in all of my years as a math tutor was that kids who were always busy weren't always the happiest or most successful.  There has to be something else that leads to success and happiness even though busyness seems to be the mantra of our age.

  1. Curiosity
You must learn how to channel that God-given curiousity into pure-clean waters.” – pg. 84

- how to foster the right kind of curiosity: let them know that curiosity is good, model discerning curiosity, provide lots of resources (not just books but craft supplies, a microscope, telescope, computer programmes or appropriately supervised internet access), direct studies to areas that kids are interested in, plan field trips strategically, and use teachable moments.

  1. Reason
Our reasoning is grounded in our world view so our faith is inextricably connected to our ability to take account of what is real or known (rather than speculative or unknown) to make judgements, to reason.

- Help to develop reasoning by constantly dialoguing and discussing issues, solving problems together, forming opinions and exercising thinking skills.  (They suggest “two-minute mysteries” as good dinner time talk and thinking skill builders.  Some of the mamas in our little group like the deductive reasoning skills books that often have fun mysteries to unravel.  Any other suggestions?)

  1. Wisdom
Wisdom goes well beyond knowledge to rightly applying what we know.  But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” James 3:17

- We can help our kids to be discerning by helping them to gain the skills needed to search the scriptures for the answers that they need.  Teach them how to use a concordance, Bible dictionary and topical Bible to do their own research.

- Learn the connection between wisdom and humility by seeking answers from others that know more than ourselves.

- Pray for wisdom.  Be a good steward of your time and resources.  Write out wise quotes and keep them present in a book or posted in significant places in your home.


In our homes we need to cultivate a positive learning environment.  Learning can’t be rushed however it is wise to help our children to learn a sense of duty so that they will also know how to do what they ought to do both as young people and later as adults.  This a another one of the careful balancing acts that a parent must maintain knowing that home life itself is a huge part of one's education despite the presence of a formal time. 

Looking back, this synopsis seems long...  There is just so much packed into each chapter.  Yikes!  I still have so much to learn.  (Don't you sometimes wonder that you will never really be ready to love and care for and teach your little cherubs until you have graduated them all?  Maybe it's just me.)

Wishing you strenth as you take this crazy job on!

Cori

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Mother Culture: Wisdom and Knowledge – Part One


(Some of you, Friends, mentioned that, when receiving these posts by email, the last post didn’t come through fully.  My technical expertise are still very lean and so if that is the case again then please look to the bottom of the email for a link to the blog online where you can read this entire post.  Thank you for your Grace!))

**  Thank you also for your many words of encouragement and your prayers for our daughter.  Her cardiologist feels that her pains aren’t related to her heart condition at this time and so her paediatrician gave her a bout of antibiotics…  L  A few days later she was sick again but with a common virus (fever and headache) so “out of the frying pan and into the fire”.  At least now we are dealing with a more run of the mill illness and are recovering. **

Wisdom vs. Knowledge (Some notes on Chapter 5, Home Education:  Strengthening Your Child’s Mind to Learn for God)

"Contrary to secular educator’s view, a child is not educated just because he has logged enough time in classroom, performed well on certain tests, or completed a formal curriculum….  A truly educated child is one who has the desire and the ability to learn and to grow as a whole person.  The desire to learn (will) is from the heart; the ability to learn (skill) is in the mind.” – pg. 73

How do we need change the way that we have been teaching in light of this?  In our house it has meant taking the focus on the short term (history, language, math) skills building and focusing instead on more long term character based skill building (attentiveness, responsibility).

The true test of a child’s education is not what they know at any one time relative to what other children know (or don’t know).  It is whether or not the child is growing stronger in all of the most important learning skills – the skills that enable them to acquire knowledge, insight, and ability and to educate themselves independently.” – pg. 75

The goal should be to exercise all of a child’s mental muscles so they enter adulthood with a strong mind and the will and skill to learn whatever is necessary.” – pg. 75

Do we properly value autonomous learning skills?

Regardless of your children’s mental capacity, it is the strength of their mental muscles that will have the greatest impact on their success in life.” – pg. 75

Thoughts?

Looking forward to hearing from you,

Cori